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Don’t Let Your Best Single Years Tick Away! Take this Quiz! And Land Your Man!

We all can agree stupidity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results. If you would like to break this cycle, take the next few minutes to answer these brief questions to discover what you can do differently to begin that loving relationship you desire.

Answer as honestly as you can.

True or False

1. Do you feel like you’re a catch but struggle to find a suitable life partner?
2. Does your work consume most of your time?
3. Do you find you have a few opportunities to meet men each day?
4. Do you wonder where all the great guys for you are?
5. Have you tried online dating and given up?
6. Do you have trouble relating to the opposite sex?
7. Have you ever thought that “playing games” is the answer to landing a man?
8. Have you ever thought you were too direct, too honest, or too real on a date?
9. Do you often second guess you own intuition or gut?
10. Do you really believe men do not like strong women?

Add Up Your Score
One point for each “True” answer.

0-3 Points: You should be landing your man anytime soon! Who doesn’t like free stuff? Be sure to grab your two free gifts from Compatible Connections.  For more dating/relationship tips, webinars, free Zoom classes, book reviews, encouragement and empowerment follow Compatible Connections on Facebook. 

Be sure you know your Top 5 Compatibility Traits too! Compatibility is different than Chemistry – although both are vital to a long lasting relationships. Compatibility is a must for lasting intimate love. We all deserve the forever kind of love! If you’re curious about your 5 secret authentic compatible traits needed to align with only compatible partners Go  HERE. 

3 – 6 Points: The main reason fabulous women are still single is because the dating world is difficult and unfortunately many women after divorce don’t know what to do! Random dating doesn’t work and wastes your best single years. Here’s the secret! Do your own homework on the importance of compatibility to sustain long term relationships and marriages. It’s a proven fact and not rocket science! If you’re ready to be a student in Compatibility, Go Here.

If you’re not online dating yet, give it a go and look for compatible partners! If you “think” you’ve tried it and hate it, you’re stuck and holding yourself back from an opportunity that absolutely could introduce you to like minded men. You just need to learn how to recognize potential compatible partners, think like a man, and become the chooser! Take advantage of our free initial consultation and find out what our successful online dating Series Seek, Sort and Select Series is all about – it includes your very own Wing Woman! All of our clients have found ideal matches and many are already married – including me! I married “Match #68!”

6-10 Points: You already know something in your love life isn’t working. Continuing old ways of dating will not bring different results just more frustration while your best single years tick away. Staying stuck isn’t an option. Compatible Connections will guarantee you’ll be dating differently after your very first session! Check out our 5 Secret Law’s Series.

Client’s Success Story: Meet Rachel from LA. Going no where fast, Rachel was swiping right on Coffee Meets Bagel. Frustrated coming to her first 5 Secret Law’s Session she realized random dating wasn’t working and gave it up. Rachel discovered how to recognize perfect strangers in less than 3 minutes and began aligning with like minded men effortlessly. By the time she called into her 5th Secret Law Session with Coach Bernadette, she announced she had known her perfect compatible partner this whole time but never knew it! Once Rachel changed her focus from “her type” to “her compatible soul mate” she contacted a guy friend she’d known since college and began seeing if this could become something more. Her hunches were right! Rachel’s getting married this October!

Moral of the story: What Rachel did differently was she began dating from the inside out discovering her authentic compatibility traits were the “spark” to chemistry and real true love! She understood her perfect match needed to compliment these traits comfortably and Jim a great guy friend came to mind. Commit to learning your authentic compatibility traits and you too can have the love life you truly deserve!

Hope this true love story convinces you to give up random dating. It simply doesn’t work and keeps you on the single’s market much longer than you have to be!

For more free stuff go HERE  “We come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” #CompatibleConnections Let us answer your Questions here. True love stories never end!

To new beginnings and lasting relationships!

Coach Bernadette, MCC

Your Expert When It Comes to Dating after Divorce

If Only Divorced Women Knew the TRUTH About Dating Again


Let’s make one thing clear: there are no rules, no list of things to do to land a man in 30 days, and no reason to blame yourself if “he’s just not that into you.” Please throw those dating books away. The truth is people have opinions and hype sells. What other people think about how YOU need to land a man is absolutely absurb. Why? Because they don’t know YOU! And if you think one size fits all, you’re just wrong.

Opposites may attract but eventually they’ll attack!

It’s time to push fear aside, stop listening to opinions and advise, and become a student of compatibility. The “real truth” to what makes men and women click, fall in love, get married and stay married!

You deserve to get it right this time!

I’ve done the research and it shows that if you learn how to align with like minded men, attraction and compatibility just flows and sparks will fly!

So if you’re ready to date and want to enjoy meeting great guys for you, it all begins with knowing what makes you compatible. This is not rocket science but if you put my fool-proof “secret laws” to the test, you’ll get to know men so well you’ll never have another bad date or second guess yourself ever again.

Get Off The Singles Market!

Divorced women are looking for love in all the wrong places and missing out on creating a dating lifestyle that makes her feel confident and excited. If you’re ready to meet some great guys for you, take advantage of my complimentary Discovery Session – It’s all about you!

No more games, gimmicks or airbrushed version of yourself. You’ve been handled the wrong map to finding love. This complimentary call will enlighten you to what needs to be done differently to meet men you would actually like to have a relationship with.

Join our Facebook community and be kept up-to-date with all our latest offerings and news.Online Dating Course and PA Meetup Group Coming This Spring!

Here’s to your new beginnings and lasting happiness! You deserve to get it right this time!  Coach Bernadette

You Can’t Give What You Don’t Already Have

Life doesn’t have to be so difficult. Decisions can come easily. And yes we all deserve REAL true love and happiness. But how do we make this happen? It all begins and ends with knowing and honoring your authentic self. If you’re willing and able; you can have a peaceful life, you can love and be loved, and live a life beyond your wildest imagination.
Once my awesome clients become aware of what makes them unique, powerful and comfortable in their own skin, they are asked to read the 4 Agreements written by don Miguel Ruz. The reason this is so important is because these 4 simple Agreements will keep them accountable to themselves as they begin dating after divorce.
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

THE 5TH AGREEMENT – was written by don Miguel Ruiz’s son don Jose Ruiz

Don’t believe yourself or anybody else. Use the power of doubt to question everything you hear: Is it really the truth? Listen to the intent behind the words, and you will understand the real message.
I know we are inundated with social media “feel good” quotes, however, this is truly your shortcut to happiness, love and most of all your path to owning your true authentic self without guilt!
Here’s to new beginnings and lasting loving relationships, Coach Bernadette
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7 Morning Rituals To Empower Your Day

Many highly successful people have been known to use mini-rituals on a daily basis.
Ancient traditions had understood very clearly the power that rituals have in creating and affirming a desired reality or outcome. One a psychological level, rituals can serve to install a habit or reinforce a belief or particular mindset. It can channel our attention and intention towards a desired goal and then let the subconscious mind work on it while we are busy doing other stuff.
Many highly successful people have been known to use mini-rituals on a daily basis and some would even tell you that it was one of the keys to create their success mindset. Even some athletes and top performers are well known to maintain certain daily rituals as a way to reinforce a certain pattern of thinking and envisioning goals in their mind.
I highly recommend these morning rituals as a way to kick start and empower you for the day ahead. Of course daily rituals can also be done at another time during the day, but morning time seems to work best as it helps you to subconsciously act on them as you go through your day, thus transforming a potentially ‘bad’ day into a awesome one. I also suggest that if you choose to use more than one ritual, you reinforce the habit of doing one before starting another.
OK here we go…
Jot Down your Most Important Tasks
This is a very practical ritual. Start your day by identifying and writing down from one to three of the most important tasks you need to complete during that day. These tasks are ones that support important long-term goals that are aligned to your purpose, passion or general direction in life. For example, if writing a book or building an online community are important long term goals which are aligned to your personal growth, then an important task for the day might be finishing off a particular page or two of the book or coming up with fresh content ideas for the online community. What is important in this ritual is that you identify these tasks and complete them as early in the day as possible. Of course you will have other tasks apart from the ones you will write down but these are tasks that can be tackled later or batched up and carried out in one go.
Writing your most important tasks in the morning helps you focus your day and life according to what is essential. It helps you prioritize and manage your time better. As a result, you simplify your life by applying your focus and energy on what really counts for your overall life progress.
Script your Goals in Writing or Drawing
This is similar to the previous idea but different in its application and purpose. Writing down your most important tasks of the day is a way to have a concrete structure of action to follow. Affirming your goals, on the other hand, is a very powerful way of crystallizing your vision and goals in life into your everyday mental space. Writing down or doodling your goals on a piece of paper helps you externalize those goals by giving them form. In return they are reflected back in your subconscious mind thus reinforcing them and integrating them more wholly.
An example of this would be writing down “I am achieving greater success in my career” or “I am becoming healthier and stronger through my exercise”. Notice the present tense being used as a way to tell yourself you are in the process already. Remember the life script we subconsciously follow? You are basically modifying the script to be applied now in the present. Drawing or doodling can be equally, or even more, effective (if you are more of a visual person) as it summarizes a graphical representation of your goals. For example, if your goal is to build a new house or live in another country, you can draw the house or draw things that symbolize the country you want to live in.
Booting up your Energy with Qi Gong Exercises
According to Chinese philosophy, Qi (pronounced ‘Chee’) means the life force or energy inherent in all things and Qi Gong is the practice to cultivate and circulate that energy in your body. This may sound esoteric or complicated but actually Qi Gong is really a set of simple exercises aimed at increasing your health and vitality. There are numerous forms and practices available for free through the online media. As a morning ritual I recommend simple exercises by Qi Gong master Lee Holden.
Hot Water with Lemon
Simply add a slice of lemon in a glass of hot water and drink every morning. This is a very simple ritual I follow faithfully every morning. Essentially, apart from being a good source of vitamin C and a great way of flushing out toxins in the morning, it balances and maintains the PH levels in the body, reduces pain and inflammation in joints and knees and helps nourishing brain and nerve cells. Here are some more benefits of drinking hot water with lemon.
Feeling Gratitude
Feeling gratitude and appreciation for those little signs and moments of joy happening in your life is probably one of the most overlooked or underestimated rituals. It is a perfect morning ritual to start your day on a very positive key. The real power of gratitude is that it makes you pick out and focus on what is working in your life – what is in tune with your being as a whole. It is selectively positive. It reinforces happiness and positivity by shedding light on those awesome things, small or big that grace your every day living. Quite often we just pick out the pain points, the problems, the bottlenecks, whatever it is that is not working in our life and causing friction, anxiety and unhappiness. This is like constantly rewriting the script of your life with a negative or tragic overtone. Your subconscious mind follows faithfully that script you write whether it is a negative or positive one.
So feeling gratitude is undoubtedly an immensely empowering ritual. Start your day by being thankful for those positive things that happened the previous day or throughout the week. It could be something really petty and small. It doesn’t matter. You might be grateful for an unexpected visit from an old friend, a beautiful encounter with a kind stranger, a new opportunity or whatever it is that shines your way. Do it every morning and see what happens during the day.
Rise Earlier
The practical advantages are obvious. For example you gain more time in doing exercise such as walking, cycling or Qi Gong as suggested above. You gain more time to be with yourself to reflect, meditate or, more importantly, carry out the other morning rituals! So rising early can be seen as a foundation for all the other morning rituals. Many, like myself, find that they are more productive in the early hours of the day. Also, various studies have shown that there are many other benefits from waking up an hour or two earlier in the morning. For example it has been shown that sleeping early and waking up early helps the body attune with the earth’s circadian rhythms thus promoting more restorative sleep. Other curious results from such studies show for instance that early risers tend to be more optimistic and can anticipate and solve problems more efficiently than the norm.
Listen to Uplifting Music
In itself this ritual is a no-brainer. Uplifting music can have a direct impact on our mood especially in the morning. It charges us emotionally and tunes us into a more positive outlook of the day ahead. Most people wake up to music or listen to music as they commute to work. Very often however they tune in to a radio or randomly pick a playlist from their device. Being more selective and conscious of the music you listen to in the morning can have a great impact on your day and life in general. Try to listen to more uplifting music in the morning even if, or especially if, your mood does not dictate so. It’s funny how we try to choose music according to our mood. For example if you are feeling down or disappointed by something, you are more prone to listen to music that reflects that mood – for instance blues, sad songs or down-tempo music. This has the effect of reinforcing that mood. What you need to do is the exact opposite and re-tune your mood by listening to music that beats to a different tune with that mood.
By: Gilbert Ross
Coaching Challenge:
Do you feel like you are chasing your days and there’s never enough time? Pick a few of these ideas and see if you don’t experience more peace, clarity and focus! I know I do! Coach Bernadette

Client’s Story: What’s Wrong With Me?

Like so many of us, I used to wonder what was so wrong with me.

My relationships all started out with such amazing potential, only to end in utter heartbreak. I couldn’t understand why it kept happening, why he always changed from what he was in the beginning.

I was convinced there must be something wrong with me!

What I eventually came to realize was that he didn’t change at all; it was that I had created an image of him that he simply couldn’t live up to.

Of course it wasn’t only him. No, the truth was that I knew nothing about being real either.

The only way I believed it was possible to be loved was to become what someone else wanted me to be. I had to crack their code, figure out what it was they wanted from me and then become exactly that.

I knew of no other way to be in a relationship.

I was an image, too.

And so it was only natural that our relationship was an image; that he – and what he could offer me — was an image.

It became my secret project. As long as I saw his potential, as long as he gave me some hope of what was possible, I hung onto that hope, believing that at some point it would have to work.

Until it didn’t.

No wonder the heartbreak was so great. I was mourning not only the loss of a relationship, of what I thought was love, but the loss of a dream, of that perfect image, that perfect relationship, I had created in my own mind.

I was always absolutely certain he was everything he had the potential to be, everything I had him made out to be, if only he’d been able to live up to it.

I never saw him for who he was right there in front of me; instead I saw who I knew he could be if only he wanted to be, if only he could see it too.

It wasn’t only heartbreak; it was pure failure.

To me it meant that I wasn’t enough to make him want to be that man I knew he could be; the man I needed him to be.

No wonder I was left so confused. The real person he revealed himself to be in the end had been so buried under the image I’d made of him, there was no hope of recognition.

Since I had no idea of what it meant to be real, to be true to myself, there was no way I could allow him to do the same.

When you’ve lived your entire life struggling to be an image of what someone else wants you to be, nothing is ever as it seems. You learn to substitute the source, but the result is always the same. Never what actually is, but always what you believe it has the potential to be.

We lose ourselves in that image, in those plans, in those dreams that are all about trying to find ourselves, even if we don’t see that until it’s too late.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

If it’s real, if you’re real, you’ll eventually see truths that support the ephemeral words. Real life behaviors and actions that reveal who someone really is, not merely what you want or need them to be. Coach Bernadette’s line “watch the movie” summed this up for me. I was able to listen closely and watch behaviors without judgment or expectations.

Have the courage to give up the image in exchange for the only kind of love ever worth having; the real kind. And the only way to find real love is to BE your authentic self. Coach Bernadette’s 5 Secret Laws of Compatible Attraction gave me an awareness about myself I never had nor could ever find on my own.  Being a student of “compatibility” gave me more than a dating plan it introduced me to the woman I really am! I began dating the person not the potential and found “the real deal!” So can you!


 How well do you know the REAL you? Your Soul Self? Your Core Values? Your Basic Emotional Needs? Your Love Language? Discover authentic love by being the REAL you!

One Question to Never Ask On A Dating App or Online


How are you still single?

It may be your intention to share a compliment, but it doesn’t negate the fact that it’s more of a rhetorical question and more likely to land as an insult.  Not one single girl/guy escapes well-intended friends and family members asking the same thing, however, even worse when it’s the first message from a text.  Singles routinely receive messages that are more insulting but this one stings every time. This should be obvious, but sadly isn’t.

“How are you still single, presumes something is “wrong” with this person who happens to be single.

 We’re  supposed to be in friendly territory here.  Getting to know perfect strangers is an Art. An Art that comes from curiosity.  It’s my practice to empower divorced women with Curious Questions in a fun, lite and flirty way that allows them to focus on compatibility not judgment.  Questions that align them with potential compatible partners. When you come from curiosity without judging a person, you’ll never have to worry about hurting someone’s feelings or making a good impression. If you happen to meet someone who’s been single for a while, instead of asking “why are you still single” ask a much wiser question coming from curiosity like …  “How have you spent your free time?” This way you’ll negate feeling embarrassed when they answer “Aren’t you lucky!”

It’s my professional opinion that when singles learn to ask curious questions that are meaningful to them, they’ll quickly recognize like minded people, get off the singles market and into that long awaited loving relationship they deserve.

Curious Questions do not come easily for most people. Take a look at our 101 Curious Dating Questions to review before your next first date!

Are you ready to give up your single status? Let us show you how!

What Irresistible Single Women Do Differently

Like attracts like and when you are living your authentic Core Values and meeting your Emotional Needs on your own.  You naturally create charisma people notice!

Here are 14 things irresistible single women do differently while honoring their authentic selves. 

Always wear your confidence with a smile.

1. Practice acceptance.

You are perfectly imperfect. Learning to accept yourself for who you are is the most important step to self-love. Stop comparing yourself to others you’ll always come up short and learn to embrace the person you are by honoring your Core Values.

You have beautiful qualities, both physical and emotional, that draw people to you. You don’t need to look or talk or act like anyone else. We all offer the world something different. That’s what makes it so beautiful.

2. Declutter your space.

Living or working in chaos can deeply affect your mood and create a feeling of chaos within. An open, organized space can be freeing and uplifting. I’m not saying you have to keep your space perfectly clean, but taking a little time to tidy up can make a big difference.

Getting rid of that pile of clothes you’ve been meaning to donate or sorting through that stack of papers you’ve been staring at for months can be quite refreshing. Think of it as getting rid of the old to make room for the new!

3. Pamper yourself.

Taking care of your body shows you have respect for the amazing temple your soul inhabits. Simple self-care techniques like dry skin brushing, taking a detox bath, or prioritizing quality sleep are all ways of respecting your body and showing it the love it deserves.

4. Nourish your body.

Replenishing your body with clean water and real, whole food is a loving gesture. As they say, you are what you eat. If you eat garbage, you tend to feel like garbage. Show your body that it matters by providing the high-quality nutrients it needs to thrive.

5. Leave yourself a note.

Try writing a positive note or listing your goals as a reminder on your mirror so you can’t avoid it. It’s a great way to wake up each day putting a smile on your face!

6. Choose your tribe wisely.

As we grow up, the number of friends we have tends to shrink. But that’s a good thing. As we mature, we start to value our time and our friendships more and shift focus from quantity to quality.

The energy of your inner circle is contagious, which is why it is so important to surround yourself with uplifting, supportive people.

7. Be grateful.

Our inner dialogue tends to focus on the negative — whether it’s physical features, a mistake we made, or an opportunity we missed. How can you look at these in a positive light?

Are you grateful to have a healthy body that you can move and transform? How lucky are you to have a good job to provide for your family? Are you thankful that you were able to learn so much from that one little mistake you made the other day?

Finding things to be grateful for on a daily basis can help change your inner dialogue. If you tend toward negative internal conversation, gratitude is a wonderful way to change that. Writing in a gratitude journal is a wonderful way to end your day before going to sleep.

8. Learn to let go.

This proved quite the challenge for me. It took me a long time to realize that other people’s problems were just that — other people’s problems. I had to accept that I cannot change and save everyone. I can only learn to establish my boundaries, offer help where it is welcomed, and — most importantly — know when to walk away.

You are not the world’s savior. You can show kindness and compassion to others but not to the point at which it detracts from your other responsibilities. Sometimes, you just have to let things go.

9. Get comfortable with “me time.”

So many people struggle with the idea of taking time for themselves. They dedicate their lives to careers or children or ailing parents, and the thought of taking a couple of hours for themselves brings too much guilt to consider.

Well, I am here to tell you that there is absolutely nothing wrong with taking some “me” time. Even just an hour every now and then can help to recharge, reset, and reenergize you. This is not only important for your own well-being but for those around you.

If you run yourself into the ground, what good will you be to anyone else? Remember, you have to put your oxygen mask on first if you want to be able to help the person next to you. It’s ok to feel the guilt but do it anyway!

10. Take a tech time-out.

Between our phones and computers and TVs, our minds are constantly overstimulated. All this screen time can distract us from reality and from ourselves. Taking time at the end of the day without gadgets is a great way to get back in touch with yourself. How are you feeling? What are you thinking? What’s going on in your body?

11. Start your day with a positive affirmation.

Begin each day by acknowledging something positive about yourself. Maybe you handled a stressful situation really well yesterday or accomplished your first headstand in yoga class. Even something as simple as acknowledging that you smiled a little more yesterday is worth noting. All the little things we overlook truly make a difference. Focusing on the positive moments in your day will transform your mindset over time.

12. Learn forgiveness.

It takes a long time to get to forgiveness when someone has truly let you down or hurt you. Not everyone will or can forgive others. But what we can do is to forgive ourselves. Forgiveness is for giving. Begin with giving this gift to yourself first. Life is a process that will unfold even if you don’t help! Some of us will get there eventually. If not “let it go.”

13. Have fun!

Life is short! It doesn’t have to be so serious. While there is a time and a place to be serious, there should also be plenty of time to enjoy yourself. When’s the last time you danced? Or sang at the top of your lungs? Allowing yourself to be creative and let loose will boost your spirits and remind you that life isn’t just about work. There can still be some playtime in there, too!

14. Learn to say no.

While it may feel uncomfortable at first, learning to say no is important. You must be able to set boundaries for yourself. I used to get frustrated and feel like people were taking advantage of my kindness. Looking back, on this I wasn’t showing myself any respect nor was I honoring my true self. Saying “yes” when you really meant no can be a problem but we really are the ones responsible. We teach people how to be with us. You can’t be everything to everyone and that’s ok. Trust me, people will respect you when you stand up for yourself, and your relationships will flourish because of it.

All the best as you pave your way to being even more fabulous than you already are!

Love Coach Bernadette Smith 

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How to Find True Love


Dating after divorce and finding that true love doesn’t have to be petrifying or take years to find once you know what makes you happy! Happiness is key to an authentic compatible attraction. Unfortunately,  many women loose themselves going through life owning the brunt of adult responsibilities raising families, being a wife, daughter, aunt you name the responsibility and I’ll show you a great lady behind it! Over time, women loose the essence of who they really are. After divorce women begin dating settling for the “the best for now,” second guess every date they ever have, poke and run, or fall in lust instead of love! Meet Self Sabotaging Sally: 

Sally was a newly divorced woman who spent the past 20 plus years raising a family and playing the role of a lonely homemaker. After divorce, she came to me to figure out how to make the transition into the dating world as a single woman she hadn’t known since college. Sally was clueless, nervous and anxious about the thought of dating again. Sally’s experience is very common.

She was so wrapped up in adult responsibilities she forgot what made HER happy. Discovering her 5 Secret Laws of Compatible Attraction,  Sally found her long lost desire for music, dancing, and playing sports. After realizing what brought happiness into her life, it became  much easier recognizing like-minded compatible men. Dating was no longer a chore but something she looked forward to once she honored herself with “happiness” that put a smile on her face!  Sally started dating differently feeling much more secure and confident meeting men for the first time.

Happiness is KEY to showing up as an irresistible attractive woman. Not only did Sally met a great match online dating, she is now taking golf lessons from her sweetheart’s golf pro!

Most women don’t realize compatibility is the straight line to meeting men you actually want to see again. Too many people have terrible random and haphazard dating experiences, Relationship shopping takes time but it doesn’t have to take forever . Once you discover how to go about meeting like`minded-men everything changes and the best way to meet them is to ask connecting questions!

Use these Top 5 Connecting ?’s to Recognize like-minded men. (BE sure to answer these questions for yourself first!)

  1. How do you enjoy life?
  2. What events of your life were most fun in retrospect?
  3. What do you do with your free time?
  4. What type of people most excite and interest you?
  5. What type of people bore you?

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Why Emotional Intelligence & Compatibility Are The Best Skills You Can Have In Dating …



In dating, although we’re taught the abstract concept that love conquers all, we’re also encouraged to find a partner who has potential. However, if we spend too much time looking for someone who’s perfect on paper, we’re setting ourselves up for failure.  Of course, if we let our hearts get the best of us through the dating process, we set ourselves up for failure too!

So how do we find an appropriate balance between rationality and emotionality? By using emotional intelligence and seeking a partner that is compatible. 

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is essentially the ability to notice, identify, and regulate emotions. Compatibility is sharing your most important values and relationship needs with a significant other who aligns with your authentic self.

Relationship compatibility exists, first and foremost, when a couple relates with equality and respect. It’s important for couples to have fun together and really enjoy the time they spend together.

Relationships thrive when two people share companionship and activities.

Emotional intelligence and compatibility are truly the most valuable skills you can have, both in the dating (and rejection!) process and in relationships. Here’s why:

Emotional intelligence + Compatibility leads to healthy attractions.

When we’re guided by our heart and don’t distinguish between anxiety, lust, infatuation, and desire, our physical attractions can lead us to unhealthy relationships. When we’re guided solely by our intellect and turn off our heart, we risk dating people who are great on paper but unable to connect with us emotionally.

However, when we use our emotional intelligence but vet with our minds as we seek out potential compatible partners (like attracts like) we’re far more likely to seek out and maintain fulfilling relationships.



If you don’t identify as emotionally intelligent, fear not: Strengthening the emotional intelligence muscles isn’t much different from strengthening the biceps. Only, rather than doing so at a gym, you can do so using coaching, meditation, yoga, and mindfulness. So get looking inside and trust that familiarizing yourself with your EQ and compatibility traits will make you a much better dater and partner!

Check out our EQ Quiz


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Happy Holidays,

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